Healing the sister wound
Bringing together like-minded people is truly one of my favorite things to do. A few weeks ago, I hosted a women’s circle with ten wonderful, radiant, strong women. We shared our stories, listened deeply, laughed together, and held space for each other. Emotions moved through and some tears were shed. That’s the magic that happens when we gather in a supportive environment, the power of sisterhood. We learned that almost all of us grew up in different countries on different continents even, with different cultures, religions, and backgrounds. A diverse and multicultural group. But there was one thing we had in common: We all had a difficult relationship with other women growing up.
Why is it that our relationships with other women are often so difficult?
There was a time when women were honored as empowered, magical, intuitive, sacred beings. During this ancient past, they lived in harmony with nature, the earth, and each other. They were rooted confidently in the power of the feminine heart and lived and created from that inner center of intuition, balance, and peace. They gathered in circle, raised children together, and supported each other. Nothing was done alone.
Over 5000 years ago, the divine feminine along with all of her gifts, was cast into the shadow of our societies and religions, leaving deep scars of betrayal, mistrust, and excruciating pain that have been passed down through generations. This separation has not only left us women unable to fully harness and share our gifts and live in true alignment with our hearts, but it has left our families, communities and world at large greatly imbalanced.
Over time, humanity has been trained to align with the vibration of competition and separation which plays out in the collective as well as in our own personal lives. We may experience it as fear of abandonment, unworthiness, jealousy, the feeling of “I am not good / pretty / smart enough”, and seeing other women as a threat.
These stories of separation and fear trigger wounded parts within ourselves and as a result, we attract opportunities to compete and judge until we break the cycle and lean into healing. Our relationships are mirrors and accelerators for evolution and growth.
Healing means meeting our wounded parts with acceptance, compassion, and unconditional love.
When we acknowledge these parts within ourselves and give them a voice in a safe space, we can release unsupportive energetic imprints and and forge a new path - a path into wholeness, love, and sisterhood.
On this journey, we reconnect with our hearts and remember our strength. We remember that we are all sisters, and we came here at this time to hold each other, heal with one another, and birth a new archetype of femininity that embodies harmony, collaboration, and empowerment, deeply rooted and grounded in love. This energy is integrated through awareness, the willingness to learn, and the choices we make every day.
Can we sow more seeds of kindness and love?
Can we meet ourselves and others with more respect and compassion?
Can we let go of the old stories we have been telling ourselves?
Can we listen to our hearts and make self-honoring choices?
Can we forgive and bring healing into our relationships and communities?
Can we celebrate our differences and learn from one another?
Can we focus on what connects us and create together?
Can we soften of hearts to embrace sisterhood and the power of the collective energy of women?
When I started Wings of a Visionary in 2017, it was my intention to create a safe space for women to come together. A space to connect, feel, explore the realms of the heart, and through deep inner alignment, step into a place of harmony and empowerment. We curate and facilitate transformational experiences and events online and offline - and would love to have you!
Through the power of sacred ritual, ceremony, and potent practices, we connect deeply with nature and ourselves to create meaningful change, in our own lives and beyond.
Through the unwavering support of soul-centered community and guidance from our facilitators, we experience transformation. Together, we walk this path of self discovery and awakening as conscious beings.
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Ancient mother, moving through us
Roots growing deep in our ancestry
Medicine woman, daughter, mother and lover
Reclaiming the power of our sacred memory
We are woman, we are bringers of life
We are vessels of love, we are expressions of the divine
Sisters hold my hands,
You are stronger than you know
We are opening to love
We are learning how to grow
We hear the call
We are returning we remember
We are like the rose
We are stronger than we know
Ayla Schafer - Rose
